♥ Monday, March 29, 2010
THE EXCESS BAGGAGE
At this age, when you meet someone be it the same or the opposite sex, more often than not that person will have an excess baggage in their packages.
Even I have a package which consists of an excess baggage. Aside from the never-ending mood swings, I have the title of bekas tunang orang. Wait! That's not an excess baggage - that's a title of an item which comes in a package. My package! Excess baggage would be if we had gotten the house we applied for. Thank GOD our application didn't go through! Really thankful for that. It would be such a hassle!
Excess baggage comes in all kinds of shapes, sizes, things, humans and even animals. Yes! Animals. A friend of mine fell in love with this wonderful guy who had adopted a dog with his former girlfriend. The dog was his excess baggage for a period of time. It was also a link for him to communicate with his former girlfriend. Though it was all clean, I'm damn sure my friend wasn't comfortable about it but of course to the guy, it's nothing to be uncomfortable about because that's how usually guys think! That excess baggage lasted for about 4 months and they're still happily in love.
My divorced cousin, married her 2nd husband who was single and so eligible then. Her excess baggage was her 3 sons! Again, that's not really an excess baggage. It's more of a package. Simply because the 3 sons were in no way a link for her to communicate with her former husband. It would have been if the roles were reversed and her husband needs to give alimony every month. Now, that would be a never-ending excess baggage!!!
So Dear Readers, do you get the definition of an excess baggage already? Something tangible that is linked to your past that is!
As mentioned, it has become quite common these days for us to be dating humans with an excess baggage/baggages. We just have to accept that fact if the package looks promising. However, there will be times when certain things we are just no comfortable of and about. The best solution is to talk to our partners.
Dear Partners, if you do get a whine or two or even countless whines about your partners' being uncomfortable with your very own excess baggage, please take those words into account and please do not provoke.
It's not ego. It's jealousy and insecurity. Okay, maybe a little bit of ego but still, please do understand us.
It will mean a lot and it will avoid lots of unnecessary arguments and sulkings...
Labels: MY thoughts, relationships
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